“‘Father’ is the noblest title a man can be given. It is more than a biological role. It signifies a patriarch, a leader, an exemplar, a confidant, a teacher, a hero, a friend.” Robert L. Backman
I’m already looking forward to Father’s Day tomorrow. My alarm is set for 4:15 a.m. and the very first thing I get to do is get on “What’s App” at 5 a.m. and through a pastor and friend, meet 82 orphans in Pakistan that we’ve had the privilege of helping to support. As I think about this, I think about how even though they have no earthly parents, their Heavenly Father loves them deeply and provides for their needs. I can’t wait to meet them!
Afterwards, I’ll head out for an early morning run and talk to God for a bit. Then I head to church and get to share an encouraging word with the dads there. Not a bad way to start the day! #pumped
As I think about Father’s Day and what it means to me, I’d like to encourage you and maybe put a new twist on it. Instead of expecting our wives and kids to wait on us, I’d challenge you to do something different in the spirit of Ephesians 5:25….
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her….”
Instead of just lounging around waiting for breakfast in bed, give some thought to how you can express your gratitude for and to your wife. After all, if it wasn’t for her you wouldn’t have your kids, right? Consider getting up early to go out and grab some flowers and/or a card for her and have them waiting on the kitchen table when she gets up. Let her know how much you appreciate all she does for you, which in turn allows you to be a solid Dad for your kids. Make sure and let your kiddos know what a tremendous blessing they are to you. If you’re more of a stoic type in this regard, man up and verbalize it today. They’ll never forget those words and it will bear fruit in their lives as they continue down their own path.
I believe that the role of a father holds much more weight than our modern culture will give us credit for. If you really think about it, you’re playing a vital role in raising a lineage of sons and daughters that come after your own kids. Your words and more importantly, your actions and example, will shape lives for generations. Whether you’re encouraging, supportive, sacrificial, loving and strong or rageful, neglectful, self serving, disrespectful and bitter….these are the seeds you are planting in the hearts of your sons and daughters and their sons and daughters and so on down the road. Your leadership in your household is a high calling and God treats it as such….
“If anyone causes one of these little ones-those who believe in me- to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.” Matthew 18:6
God doesn’t mince words.
Take some time to reflect on your walk as a father and look at everything….and I mean everything Pay particular attention to potential “generational curses/spirits” that come through various addictions, marital unfaithfulness, a compulsion towards pornography, etc. If you’re caught up in this, ask God to forgive you and heal you. Pray against this type of mindset/behavior and that it would stop with your generation. Pray for future generations of your family to be free of that spiritual bondage. This is part of your role as the God appointed leader of your home. Don’t shrink away from this responsibility or make light of it. Men, you will give an account to God so take it seriously.
As I write this I have the movie “300” playing in the background. One of my favorite “dude” flicks of all time. While Leonidas is definitely my hero in the film, the other is absolutely Queen Gorgo! With that being said, I’d also like to address the ladies that might be reading this. You also play a tremendously important role in all of this. For your husband to reach his full potential as a father, husband and man, your strength, encouragement, love and support are his lifeblood. In the film, before Leonidas and his band of Spartans push-kick the Persian messengers down the well, he looks to his queen for her approval. With a simple nod showing that she is in agreement, he attacks and down they go…. While you wouldn’t want your kids in the room during their love scene, it’s a powerful example of how she embraces his role, builds him up and validates him. Ladies, speak strength to your husband. Pray for him. Let him know that you’re trusting him to lead and guide the family and don’t neglect the connection he needs with you physically. You play such a critical part and I can’t emphasize that enough. We men are easily built up or broken down by our wives.
Dads, grandads, uncles and mentors….may your day be blessed in unexpected ways and may your relationship with your Heavenly Father continue to grow. Cherish and embrace the blessing of your family with great joy and enjoy this season of life….it won’t last forever.
“What we do in life, echoes in eternity.” Marcus Decimus Meridius
“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” Frederick Douglas